Monday, December 12, 2011

Nikki DeLoach's Carefrontation to 15-Year-Old Self, #AWKWARD

Hi All,

Kim let me jump in this week with a very special followup to my Thanksgiving post HIGH SCHOOL, LIKE LIFE, IS AWKWARD.


It's no secret that I'm a huge fan of the MTV show AWKWARD. Imagine my surprise when actress phemon, Nikki DeLoach, reached out to me on Facebook.

Nikki DeLoach: Hi! I checked out your blog and I LOVE it! How fun! Thank you so much for your support of the show. It really means so much, and I will definitely complete the carefrontation to myself.
 Carey: *jaw drops*


What Nikki shared with me is too good-too wise and empowering-not to pass along to others...

Nikki DeLoach: Dear 15 year old self,
Here is a list of things that someone (thanks loved ones) told me and other things that no one told me (thanks loved ones)...
1. Life is too short. Laugh a lot! Don't sweat the small stuff, and don't want to grow up faster than life wants you to.
2. Stand up for yourself and those who can't stand up for themselves. You will look back one day and be really proud of yourself.
3. Dump that boyfriend who you think is the one but who treats you like you are one of many. Puh-lease. You deserve better and when you are older, you will find it.
4. Forgive your parents. Love your parents. Be patient with your parents. Most of the time, they are doing the best they can. And they just want what's best for you.
5. Study hard. Work hard. People who live very fulfilling lives are those who understand that you have to give a care. So care.
6. Treasure your friends. Be a good friend.
7. Be yourself. Be who you are. Even if you think that "who you are" will not be accepted in the cool crowd, be yourself. You are perfectly wonderful just as you are.
8. No matter how hard they try, don't let your mom and nana convince you that a perm looks good. It doesn't. (*This is definitely an amendment to rule number 4 where I say your parents just want what is best for you. In this case, they don't know what is best and I have the pictures to prove it).
9. Be kind. Treat people the way you would want to be treated. The Golden Rule is golden for a reason. Always solid advice (Thanks Dad).
10. Pretty is as pretty does. Outer beauty is just a reflection of your inner beauty. (Thanks Mom!)
11. Life is an extension of high school. Start loving yourself today. You are worth it.
12. Stand up for yourself and those who can't stand up for themselves. You will look back one day and be really proud of yourself.
3. Dump that boyfriend who you think is the one but who treats you like you are one of many. Puh-lease. You deserve better and when you are older, you will find it.
4. Forgive your parents. Love your parents. Be patient with your parents. Most of the time, they are doing the best they can. And they just want wants best for you.
5. Study hard. Work hard. People who live very fulfilling lives are those who understand that you have to give a care. So care.
6. Treasure your friends. Be a good friend.
7. Be yourself. Be who you are. Even if you think that "who you are" will not be accepted in the cool crowd, be yourself. You are perfectly wonderful just as you are.
8. No matter how hard they try, don't let your mom and nana convince you that a perm looks good. It doesn't. (*This is definitely an amendment to rule number 4 where I say your parents just want what is best for you. In this case, they don't know what is best and I have the pictures to prove it).
9. Be kind. Treat people the way you would want to be treated. The Golden Rule is golden for a reason. Always solid advice (Thanks Dad).
10. Pretty is as pretty does. Outer beauty is just a reflection of your inner beauty. (Thanks Mom!)
11. Life is an extension of high school. Start loving yourself today. You are worth it.
Thanks Nikki!!!

(In case you missed Kim's post WHAT DO ADULTS KNOW ABOUT TEEN FRIENDSHIPS?!)

Carey Corp is the author of THE HALO CHRONICLES: THE GUARDIAN.

4 comments:

Melissa Landers said...

Great letter, Nikki! Thanks for sharing with us. I, too, had a perm at fifteen. ::hides face:: What can I say? It was in style.

Kimberly said...

What wonderful and wise words! Thanks so much.
I, too, had the dreaded perm at the same age. All my hair became brittle and fell out around my ears. The mohawk look didn't look great--looked awful, actually--on an impressionable, sensitive 10th grade girl.
No matter the age, advice should always be welcomed by someone older--whether that's a parent, grandparent or an older friend.
Kim

Jennifer said...

This is probably totally lame, but I can't tell you how much comfort I derive from knowing Nikki DeLoach suffered from Teen Perm Syndrome. I suddenly feel so normal!

But truly? That #1? That's advice for every day of life. Love it.

(now I gotta go back to my fangirl corner where I keep giggling and repeating OMG! Nikki DeLoach! On Honestly YA! OMG! so cool!!)
*ahem* I'll recover, I swear *cough*

Suzanne Lilly said...

Stand up for yourself is probably the hardest thing for teens to do. I know it was for me. Great advice!