It's my pleasure to introduce Alicia McCalla to this week's Welcome Wednesday Post. Alicia writes fantasy, futuristic and paranormal stories in color. Take it away, Alicia...
My First Interracial Romance Ended in Tragedy:
A SciFi Writer Discusses the Interracial Relationship in her Novel
When I was in high school, I had my first experience with an interracial romance. Sadly, it ended in embarrassment and violence. I often think back on the experience and wonder what I might have done differently. For sure, I realize that I was unknowingly involved in a love triangle. I’d just broken up with my African-American boyfriend. I thought that the relationship was over. In some ways, my interracial romance was a rebound but it gave me a sense of comfort.
These two guys were polar opposites. My former boyfriend had been a football playing jock who dumped me because he wanted to “play the field.” I simply didn’t fit his mold. I was “too” intellectual. The other was a deep intellectual who engaged in discussions about Jean Paul Sartre and existentialism. He was a poet who spiked his hair with gel and wore black because he mourned the world. Our conversations were spiritual, inviting, and soulful.
The relationship ended abruptly when the football player beat the living daylights out of my poet. The beating was violent, cruel, and demeaning.
It was so bad that people who witnessed it refused to speak to me again. They despised me. They felt I should’ve known better. I was embarrassed and crushed.
When it was all over, I went to my poet to console him but he shrank away from my touch. He didn’t look at me. He quietly told me that our relationship was over. My heart sank.
I left him to find the football player. When I found him, I asked him “why” when he’d already told me that he didn’t want me. His answer was plain. “I couldn’t lose you to a white boy.”
In my upper YA novel, Breaking Free, I have an interracial relationship between XJ and Brandon. There is a love triangle. Things get messy in my novels. For one, Brandon has to deal with his stalker ex-girlfriend who happens to be his same race but is the perfect mate designation type. Brandon cares deeply for XJ and despises his ex-girlfriend, but in their genetically-enhanced world, the relationship between XJ and Brandon is illegal. This relationship may not be able to survive.
Breaking Free tackles issues that deal with race, class, and gender. In fact, the series is filled with real controversial issues, just like in life.
Alicia McCalla is a native Detroiter who currently resides in Atlanta, Georgia. She works as a school librarian and enjoys spending time with her husband and son.
Thanks so much, Alicia. This post was both wonderful and powerful. I can only image how horrible you felt when your wounded poet rejected you.
Okay readers, now it's time for your input. Alicia would like to know if others have experienced an interracial relationship that had similar challenges. She's interested in knowing your stories and how you handled them.